Why I’m fed up with taking advice from “successful” people I never met Why I’m fed up with taking advice from “successful” people I never met
Full disclosure: this weekend I lost it a little bit. I had a mini-breakdown. Somehow I got one too many invitations for the next... Why I’m fed up with taking advice from “successful” people I never met

Full disclosure: this weekend I lost it a little bit. I had a mini-breakdown. Somehow I got one too many invitations for the next big success workshop. And a webinar. Conference. The list goes on.

Don’t get me wrong. I love learning new things, and educating myself. This year alone, I spent a significant portion of the money I raised on attending conferences and events around the world. I even offer a number of training programs myself, in an attempt to share what I’ve learned with the rest of the world. It’s a combination of “paying it forward” and my motto “sharing is caring”.

So even though I make a portion of my living through online education, please take these things to heart:

  • You DON’T need to work 80+ hours a week.
  • You DON’T need to read 100 books a year.
  • You DON’T need to listen to 20 podcasts.
  • You CAN have a relationship.
  • You CAN volunteer.
  • You CAN enjoy life.

Bottomline: Do yourself a huge favour and please STOP taking advice from “successful” people you never met. Most of them only show a part of them that is successful. Read my article on the story we tell about ourselves. You don’t see the other parts of the life of these self-proclaimed “successful”. Have you noticed that Tony Robbins had 2 wives and has to do a crazy 100 steps routine daily to stay sane? No offence, but what part of him is successful?

In doing the research for my Happiness book, I have met a lot of people that seemed successful externally but were miserable people. I also met people that had nothing material but are successful in other ways.

Everyone’s path is different. You’re on your unique path to whatever success means for you. It is okay that what you consider “success”, changes over time. Success is not a one time definition that fits everybody at all times, even though many online teachers and success gurus will make you believe that they hold the ultimate “key to success”. Of course they do, and they gladly charge you for it too.

People who tell you to read more are the ones with books to sell. Same with podcasts. Online courses. Events. Workshops. Conferences. Swipe your credit card, pretty please.

My mission is, and always has been, to inspire you to “just fly”. I want you to GO on your OWN adventure and define what success is for yourself. Embrace the unknown. Share your story. Change is good and trying to avoid it only means that you are staying behind.

Travel safe, my friends.

Wilko van de Kamp Author

WILKO VAN DE KAMP is the author of #1 international best seller The Freedom Project and several other books and e-books. He's also an award-winning photographic artist, and professional world traveler. His inspiration comes from traveling all over the world. He calls the Canadian Rocky Mountains his home, and the rest of the world his office. He has been capturing our wonderful planet, and it's beautiful inhabitants, for more than half his life. Wilko has spent his life traveling the world to capture awe-inspiring images for those who wouldn't see them otherwise, and to inspire others to embark on their journey of a lifetime. Through his art, writing and appearances as a keynote speaker he enjoys sharing his colorful experiences with the world.