Keep your goals realistic, someone said. Sounds reasonable. Then again, the word “realistic” is derived from reality – something we perceive as real. With the past behind us and the future ahead of us, all we can perceive as real is now. So the objective of being real is to be here, now, with what is today. Being real and authentic doesn’t mean living in a fantasy filled dream world focused on tomorrow when “everything will be better”. It also doesn’t mean getting stuck in the past, wallowing in self-pity over perceived mistakes or believed missed opportunities. If you really think about it, neither of those exist today.
Instead of being real, we pretend to be all sorts of things were not. Happy. Content. Successful. The topics on which we project those attributes vary: our job, relationship, company, career, income, friends, social life, the list goes on. And we share our “reality” of our grand, imaginary life on Facebook. We make our pictures and our status updates reflect the life we want to live – not the reality we are living. It’s a facade that’s hard to keep up with. And yet we wonder why we feel lonely and miserable most, or at least some of the time.
Reality is not always great. Personally, I’ve had a slow summer in business, like most entrepreneurs. None of the people who initially said some of my new courses were a “great idea” signed up. Luckily for me, many others did – I just had to learn to fish in a different pond. With labour day behind us it’s time to get back to work and focus on where we want to be by the end of this year – which is closer than we think. Time to set some goals.
Now the beauty of goals is that, unlike reality, they are focused on the future. They describe where we see ourselves going. Goals therefore shouldn’t be “realistic”. They should be big, ambitious, and preferably a little scary. The best goals are the ones where you don’t really know how you’re going to get there. Setting goals works like a GPS system. With the destination plotted on your map, all you have to do to get there is know where you are today, and then follow a path to get from A to B. Knowing where you are today (A), that’s reality. Knowing where you want to be (B) is a goal, not yet reality.
Let’s be authentic, set some goals and keep it real.
Wilko van de Kamp Author | Artist | Advisor
Hi, I’m Wilko van de Kamp, creator of Liberty Training Academy and author of the Freedom Project book series. For more than 15 years, I have helped people and their companies achieve their own results beyond their goals. I work with authors, coaches and experts to build their brand to become a #1 industry influencer and increase their impact on the communities they serve. We focus on every aspect of personal brand building through technology and storytelling, with a relentless focus on accelerating the achievement of their personal, professional and financial goals. And I would love to do the same for you! To get a conversation started, please text me directly at 587-417-2697.