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How To Become (And Love) Your Authentic Self

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Wilko van de Kamp
Oct 15, 2020
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Too much emphasis is often being placed on the concept of “loving yourself”. Aplenty of self-proclaimed gurus attack me with advertisements every day that’ll promise me to live more self-fulfilled authentic lifestyle. If I only did … . You let me know what’s on the three dots … for you.

Let’s cut the not-so-proverbial BullShit. You can’t love yourself if you’re trying to get rid of half yourself. You’re “both-sided”. You’re both good-and-bad, right-and-wrong, sinner-and-saint, or whatever other dualistic comparison your mind can come up with. You’re all-of-the-above. And that’s cool.

Stop Fighting Yourself

Trying to fight your holistic being, the more polarized your view becomes, the higher your stress becomes. Feedback mechanisms exist to help to get us to live authentically. Emotions are feedback mechanism to let you know you’re not being objective. The higher your emotions, the further off-track you are from living your life and being your authentic self.

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