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The Contradiction Of Love And Freedom

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Wilko van de Kamp
Feb 11, 2021
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Heart shaped tree with red leaves on field. Concepts of love, Valentine's day.

Have you ever seen the popular “game over” stag T-shirt? It’s available in many different designs and versions now, but originally the shirt started with the silhouette of a groom wearing a ball and chain beside his new bride. “Game over”, the caption said. Love and freedom are opposing ideas, which don’t seem to go hand-in-hand, unlike the newly married couple. In some variations of the shirt the groom would be even depicted with a frowning face, while the bride is smiling. Is this how we’re collectively thinking about marriage?

Love and Freedom

In the human mind, freedom is relative to your current situation. Our dualistic mind thinks the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. In my Happiness book I explored the common misperception that freedom in a career comes from being an entrepreneur instead of an employee. We all think we want to work for ourselves instead of working for someone else. I’ve been depressed, stressed and burned out on both sides of that often-deba…

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