We’re often willing to do more for others, than for ourselves. As a result, most people do not take good care of themselves. They think having goals and dreams for their own life is selfish and self-indulgent. This could not be further from the truth. They forget that only when we do take care of ourselves in the ways that we need to, we are truly capable of being of real service to someone else. I have found this to be especially true when you’re away from “home” and from your usual, familiar support systems.
When traveling for extended periods, and especially when living abroad permanently, there are so many new and unfamiliar things to learn and take care of, that it is easy to forget to take care of yourself. In my Happiness book I share about how I got close to and past the point of burn-out several times after moving to Canada. It happens to us all at one point or another, to various degrees.
Have you considered how you can take care of yourself in your new environment? Here are some tips and ideas that may work for you.
- Voice you feelings. Don’t keep your thoughts and feelings inside. Share your accomplishments or disappointments with someone you trust. Remember you can only change your feelings when you are aware of your them and express them.
- Do not compare yourself with others. This kind of jealousy causes self-disgust. Do not think others are better than you. If there is someone you admire, use them as a model to improve yourself. I wrote about the story we tell about ourselves a while ago. You can read it here.
- Take time to play. This can be any activity that makes you feel good. For me this is usually riding my motorcycle (in summer) or taking a few hours to go skiing in winter. You not only deserve it, it is essential to a balanced state of well-being.
- Learn to say no. When you become more comfortable with saying no to others you will find that your self-esteem improves. When you then choose to say yes to others, it will mean more to you (and them), which as a result will feel make you feel great and energized.
- Exercise. Go for a walk. Ride a bike. Take the stairs. You don’t need to go to a fancy gym to break a sweat. There is nothing like some physical activity to help shift yourself from a bad mood to one of hope. Sometimes just taking the dog for a walk (assuming you have one) is all it takes to shift your energy.
- Remember you are only a human being doing your best . Don’t let others put you high up on a pedestal. When this happens they expect you to be perfect and they feel angry and disappointed when you let them down.
- Please remember to laugh, laugh at everything, especially at yourself. Try it! It is the cheapest and most effective form of anti-depressant for life.
- Practice being an encouraging and kind person. Find two people today you can help out this way. When you do this, you will not only feel amazing, but it will kick up your self-esteem a notch or two.
- Take up a hobby. What is one thing you have always wanted to try out? It could be photography, learning a foreign language, writing a book … the list is endless. Creativity helps you unleash a sense of enthusiasm and zest for life. I’ve created several popular online courses to share some of my hobbies (which eventually grew to become additional sources of income!)
- Put time aside for your spiritual life. Slow down. Practice sitting quietly. When thoughts crop up, acknowledge them but do not pay attention to them. Be still. Be courageous and if a traditional religion has not been helpful for you, follow your own spiritual path.
Action Plan For The Week
As an action plan for this upcoming week, why not pick three tips from the list above? Put them into practice everyday and take note of how it affects your relationships with others. You might just discover that by indulging every once in a while and taking care of yourself, you are in fact enabling yourself to help others by just being YOU.
Let’s end with the beautiful words by Anthony Robbins:
“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.”
Would you like to read further? Get yourself a copy of my latest book: The Freedom Project – Happiness. The book shares the journey from dead-end career to living a fulfilling life. If you know anyone that could use a little more happiness in their work life, order them (and yourself) a copy of my book today. The book is available on Amazon, and now also on Amazon Canada. Amazon Canada currently ships the book for free!
Your also cordially invited to join my popular online courses in which I share some of my hobbies (which eventually grew to become additional sources of income!). I would love to have you join our next class!